Wednesday, December 5, 2012

It all comes down to family...

My family has been on my mind of has nothing to do with the holidays - a time we traditionally reconnect with family via phone calls, emails and Christmas cards. So much has transpired over the last few months: weddings, tragedy, illness, and of course some wonderful moments.

As I have been contemplating the complexity of family relationships I came across a quote from Elbert Hubbard that I can't get out of my mind:

"No matter what you've done for yourself or for humanity, if you can't look back on having given love and attention to your own family, what have you really accomplished."

Family relationships are so vital to me. Not just relationships with my immediate family, but my relationships with extended family. Don't get me wrong, my father, mother and siblings are critical to my well being. This post in no way diminishes or demeans what those people mean to me.

The thoughts I am sharing extend to the other people in my family. I guess I need them to know what they mean to me. I would not be the woman I am today had I not been taught and influenced by my aunts and uncles.

I have grown older and now have a family of my own. Time seems to fly by and the older I get the fewer opportuntities I have to spend with aunts, uncles and cousins. Regardless of distance and lapses of time, these people still influence me for good and continue to impact and shape my character.

My unsolicitated advice: Find ways to keep those relationships going. If you have allowed time to pass and feel you may have grown apart from loved ones...find ways to reconnect. In the end it is those familial bonds that withstand not only time, but the trials we experience in life.

The older I get, the more I personally need those relationships. Despite the fact I am 37 and have my own little family to focus most of my energy on, my extended family - most especially my aunts - still have a powerful influence on my life. They have never stopped being my role models and women I aspire to be more like.

Remember, in the end, it is the "love and attention" you give to your family that will bring you the greatest happiness.

1 comment:

  1. I love the last line in this blog post. It is so true! It looks like you haven't blogged in a while and I stumbled across your site because I'm doing my best to visit the bloggers who follow us on Twitter (not a small feat when there are a few thousand :)). But I wanted to leave this comment to let you know I enjoyed this post. Wishing you a fabulous weekend with your family!